Bedroom Talk
Should I stay or get out of the relationship.. kids envolved( mines and his)?
I have been dating a man now for about 3 mths. Problem is the relationship started out based on deception. He and an ex gf were expectina baby, But they had broken up while she was 3 mnth pregnant. The kick is that they still lived in the same household.. 2 bedroom, with his 2 kids and her there. I knew of none of this. I found out the truth when The preggo ex girlfriend called me from his cell and begin to tell me how they still lived together and have a baby on the way, and well.. he walked in while she was on the phone with me. I heard him in the background telling her " i fell in love w/ this woman, what do u want me 2 say". Anywayz, he finally came clean and told me what was goin on, but that she lied to me sayin they were in love and plan the baby , but he told me, the baby was not plan she got preggo to trap him, she is still MARRIED which she lied 2 him about and they were not together just livin in same house for lease reason and she set him up by sayin she couldnt have.. anymore kids. Well the baby is here and he still wants to be with me. he is even talking of moving closer or (with) me? I'm still not sure if I should stay and ride it out. I am scared he might change his mind because of baby. The Ex girlfriend has tried several means of breaking us up... she don't work and he pays everything @ the place, so shes fighting tooth and nail to make him stay there, but he is adamant about not loving her and refuses to stay just for the baby. His WHOLE family is behind his decision, and his mom hates her...beacuse they know this woman is an illegal and had to have a baby by an AMERICAN to stay in this country. She tried once before with another guy and miscarried. She told me this herself. he was just the next sucker she found. So i do believe she set it up... I do love him THE 2 KIDS ARE HIS FROM ANOTHER WOMAN. tHE EX GIRLFRIEND HAS 3 KIDS ALREADY. tHEY LIVE WITH HER HUSBAND AND HIS GIRLFRIEND. YEAH... SOAP OPERA DRAMA I KNOW
Public Comments
- Honestly, if you can, if your not to emotionally attached already, get out of it because you would have to deal with her BS as long as you and him together.
- Sounds rather complex. I would tell him that you want to take things slow right now so he can sort out the situation. Then back off while he sorts things out with his ex. (This should NOT involve sleeping with her and such, but it should involve making sure she gets support for her kids and her moving out and such.) Don't have contact with her and make it clear that your bf has to resolve the entire situation before you and he can get more serious. Have friends and family you can lean on for support during all this, too.
- Drama!! I think you should get out if you truly have feelings for him. He is playing everyone around him. Once a liar always a liar... He will do it again!
- sounds like springer..haha j/k sounds confusing if you love him and trust him go for it..
- don't believe everything you have heard. sounds to me as if both have been lying to you. you truly should get out of this "relationship", not only is it not headed anywhere, the road it is on will end up being your ruin.
- I don't even need to hear any more...Get outwhile you can the kids will be fine...The relationship started from lies and that is not a good thing...I would leave before things get worse
- That sounds like a lot of drama. I'm sure it will just get worse. Maybe you should pause things until he moves out.
- and if you get together with him and find yourself preggo do you think he will do you the way he did her?????
- i thank you should leave and fined some one else because when their is a child involve the ex always going to be in the way and calling him all the time she will want him to come over and spend some time with the child,he all ready lie to you who knows they probably didn't even broke up he might of just told you that he probably just wanted both of you you need to thank of the kids because that can hurt their feeling if the parents split up if i were you i would thank twice with this relationship
