Bedroom Talk

My girlfriend doesnt want to have my kids around her?

My girlfriend and I have been living in her home for aproximatley 2 years. I have my children every other weekend to stay with me. We have set up 2 seperate bedrooms for them in her house when they stay over My son is 16 and my daughter is 11. A couple of months ago she said that my children are not her resonsibility to entertain or to mother when they are over. So she is either going to leave and stay in our cottage home or I am to spend those weekends with the children at the cottage so she can have her space and not be bothered with them. So each weekend I have been staying at the cottage with my kids. She says if something is going on I could invite her to join us. but sometimes there is just spending time together. I have moved out of our home together and I am now living full time at the cottage. She says she loves me but my ex wife and family are not hers and she doenst need to be involved with any of those issues that arise.

Public Comments

1. Your kids should come first in there.She is being more than fair.She is not even your wife and you are living in her house.
2. it's good that you found that out prior to your relationship going to the next level...getting engaged or married.
3. These are YOUR kids. If she doesn't like it then this girl is NOT right for you at all. I think you have a cold hearted girlfriend if you ask me. That is not right and very unloving.
4. Your kids should come first, and her attitude stinks. If she loves you she should be willing to include your kids as part of her life as they are an EXTREMELY important part of yours. You may wish to seriously evaluate your relationship with her.
5. she's not a good partner, that means that you should stay away from here unless you want to marry someone who is not willing to join you and your kids to form a family, even if they are not her kids.
6. maybe you think she is being mean, but what she is saying is true. if you want her to be more than a girlfriend, then of course she would have accept youre kids as her own. but a girlfriend doesn't have the responsibility to be there for youre kids
7. You need to dump her. She knew you had kids and you need to make sure no one treats them like trash.
8. It's a tough job to be a step parent but if she loves you, she should at least be able to try and be nice to the kids she knew you had them when she met you. They are part of you and if she doesn't like that part then may be it is time you move on. Your kids will always be in your life, are you going to keep making special arrangements for your girlfriend? Sounds like you have to raise three kids and the oldest one is really spoiled!! Good luck!
9. I am a firm believer that if you date somebody with kids, you have accept that the kids will be in the picture. However, if you are just dating, she should not be saddled with the responsibility of being a mom to your kids. She should also not be forced to open her house up to children that she does not want there. I would suggest that for the sake of all that are involved you should end the relationship with this woman. You are not going to change her desire to not be involved with your kids and you shouldn't force her to so. This doesn't make her a bad person. It simply means that you and she do not have a compatible desire to raise your children and because your children are going to be in your life, you are better off finding a woman who wants to be more involved. Ideally this whole thing should have been settled before you moved into her house.
10. Your children are part of you and therefore part of the package when any woman gets involved with you. Rejecting them is like rejecting what YOU are. You have chosen a very selfish self serving uncaring woman to be with. Its your job to protect those kids from abuse and her attitude could harm their self esteem. You should dump her, she is worthless.