Bedroom Talk

HELP!! What to do with 10 & 11 years old girls who STOLE coins from water bottle?

my daughters are 10 & 11 years old. We live with my sister and brother-in-law. My brother-in-law is an ANGEL and does everything for them (beyond the call emotionally and FINANCIALLY!). He had one of those sparkletts water bottle jars in his closet, in HIS bedroom, and he started to notice the SILVER coins missing. He set up a trap and more coins came up missing. The 10 years old said, "I don't remember if I did take it or not!" WTF!! The 11 years old said, "I didn't do it!" Yet, there was a sandwich baggie full of silver coins in her backpack. These girls are not wanting for anything. They have been traumatized by a house fire one year ago and suffer burn scarring. I'm not trying to excuse their behavior; but, I don't want them to do wrong. HOW CAN THEY STEAL FROM SOMEONE WHO DOES SO MUCH FOR THEM??!!

Public Comments

1. you have to do what my mom did with me so many years ago make THEM return the coins to HIM and APOLOGIZE and in a FIRM STRONG voice tell them that is wrong and let sorta let them know thatif there's a next time they wont get off so easy
2. Sit down with all of them and have a talk. Make the girl return the coins and apologize.
3. These girls need a serious punishment, Ground them and tell them how spoiled they are. Take away the things they Love eg.pocket money,video games,computer etc. to teach them a lesson/
4. Make them feel guilty. They may then confess. Then get them to return the coins and apologize-and make sure they understand what they did was wrong, and have learnt their lesson.
5. YOu really need to take some control over those kids, I know they have suffered through a great trajedy but that does not mean that they deserve to be exempt from punishment, so ground them and if they do it again ground them until they are like twelve or something
6. They shouldn't do that. You should question them about it until they crack. They are old enough to know right from wrong. Do NOT make excuses for them! They are being greedy and ungrateful. They need a firm hand. Confiscate the money. Punish them : ground them and all that.
7. sit them down and make the girl give the coins back
8. I'm less worried about the stealing than I am about their lying about it afterward. Children think that everything in the house they live in belongs to them. If Mom & Dad don't specifically say, "this is my phone. You don't touch it," kids think it's theirs to use. They don't look at it as stealing, and Uncle was nowhere near their mind--they just saw something in their dwelling they wanted, so they took it. Obviously, the kids need to be talked to and told, "If you'd like to use something that belongs to Aunt or Uncle, you need permission. If you don't ask, we consider it stealing, and the punishment will be stiff." My son is 17 and lies like a dog. He is NEVER honest with us, and we hate it. We'd rather he had almost any other vice, but lying (we're both very honest people) just flips our lid. I'm not sure you can stop your daughters' lying now, but it's worth a good try. Punishment is in order, and be on the lookout for other lies, esp about stuff like chores & homework. TX Mom
9. they should apolgize and give it back to him once they think hey i need a quarter than they think hey i dont want 18.00 dollars i want 20.00 to make it even so they do it again and it becomes a bad habbit i did it when i was smaller :( like 7
10. wip them and ground them for a month
11. I think you may have to ask them what it is they are missing? What is it that they are wanting? Ask them if you or your family is not doing enough for them? The answer should be "No" to those questions. Then lay out why they feel the need to take what is not theres.