Bedroom Talk

Foster kids or media room? was it selfish of me to want the media room?

It's a long story, and I'll give you a condensed version of it: Family #1: Mom and Dad, 2 biological sons, 2 adopted daughters (my names Rilee, i'm 14, one of the adopted daughters of fam #1). Family #2: mom and dad, 2 bio daughters, 1 bio son, 1 adopted nephew. The mom in family #1 died, dad in family #2 ran out on fam, so remaining single parents marry making step family with 8 kids. well they got busy and had 2 more kids, and also became foster parents. over 15-20 diff kids have come and gone, they adopted 2, and currently have 3 in long term care (total of 15 kids, 12 of them currently live at home). we have a 4 bedroom house (with an attic turned bedroom, and half garage turned bedroom - so more like a 6 bed house). recently my parents sat us all down and said pretty much "we love all of our kids, but as of right now, we aren't taking any more kids into long term care" (the 3 that are with us now though are staying). the other half of the garage we are making into another room, but they gave us a choice, we could use it as a media/theatre room, or we could make another bedroom for temporary foster kids (kids who just need somewhere to stay until they can find somewhere else for them to stay). everyone else chose bedroom, i chose media room. i was outvoted. but was that selfish of me? i mean, i already have 8 brothers (26, 21, 15, 13, 12, 9, 7, and 3) and 6 sisters (25, 18, 17, 11, 8, and 2). and temporary kids just come and go pretty quickly so its not like we'd be making that much of an impact on them anyway (we'd be "just another family to add to the list". i used to be in foster care, i would know), but idk. i felt kinda stupid being the only one voting against it.

Public Comments

1. To be honest. I think I would vote for media room. Not to be selfish or anything but it sounds like you need a break. Too many people are in and out of your life and you just want to settle it sounds like to me.
2. I agree with you on it. I'd go nuts in a house with that many people in it! I'd have also voted media room. (although I'd have preferred a quiet library room personally lol) I wouldn't feel bad about it at all. That is a lot of people, and not a lot of space!
3. Yes it was selfish of you. You were lucky to get adopted and been given a loving family and good home. These people obviously love childrent and want to help as many as they can...a room is just a room...when you grow up and have your own home you can have a media room if it suites you, but for now you should care more about helping others like your parents are doing.
4. ur just being a kid...don't think its abnormal hun.....but I definatly find it iteresting that your parents let you choose.....go them!! they sound like amazing people and you are sooooo fortunate!
5. Don't feel guilty about your decision. That's why you are unique.
6. I don't think you are being selfish. I do not agree with them asking the kids opinion though. I think that puts too much pressure on the kids. Being the adults, they should have just said we are doing it this way.
7. your 14 and there is nothing wrong with your choice. As wonderful and generous as your parents are there has to be a point where they focus on the family they have and not the temporary one they might have.