Bedroom Talk - questions about sharing rooms and baby furniture?

questions about sharing rooms and baby furniture?

I have 4 kids and am pregnant with another one. On the top floor of our house there is 5 rooms our master bedroom is actually one more floor up but we took one of the rooms on that floor so we could be with the kids. Before all the kids used to have there own rooms ( Sebastian and Jude's rooms connect with a sliding door , the other rooms are their own). With this baby on the way we had to put Sebastian and Jude into one room together ( which they are fine with ) and we moved Oliver to Jude's old room and the baby will get Oliver's old room. Do you think that's fair ? Because the husbands ' aunt ' came over today and said that it was so unfair that the new baby would get his/her own room. We didn't want to pair the baby up with another sibling because we don't want him/her waking up the other kids. She said that we should have moved to the master bedroom one more floor up instead having to the kids share rooms. I grew up with 10 other siblings and i had to share a bedroom with at least one of my siblings basically my whole life. My husband was fortunate and never had to share a room even though he had 7 siblings. I don't think sharing rooms really affected my life. SO DO YOUR KIDS HAVE TO SHARE ROOMS ? HOW DO YOU DO IT ? DO YOU HAVE OPPOSITE GENDERS IN ONE ROOM ? HOW MANY KIDS DO YOU HAVE AND HOW MANY ROOMS DO YOU HAVE ? We have always bought new baby furniture for each baby because we thought it was important that each baby had it's own. So that when the baby got older she/he wouldn't like they were less important or anything like that. But also because our kids are so close in age when the next is born the older one was still in a crib and so on. Would you buy new furniture for every new baby or do you reuse the old ones ? Are kids are still really young Lucy is 4, Sebastian is 3, Jude is 2 and Oliver is 1.

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Not only does it save money, but reusing old furniture and having kids share rooms can teach them lessons about respecting personal space and sharing. It's not wrong of you to have the baby in its own room because of the unintentional harm that a young child can accidentally cause. And you're right, the baby can wake up the other kids at night. If your kids do not mind, then I don't see why the aunt feels the need to speak. I, personally, would buy some new furniture if necessary and reuse old ones. I grew up like that and don't think it has affected me negatively in any way.
I have two kids and they choose to share a room at this point. They are only two and three years old, boy and girl, but they are afraid to be alone in the dark. I don't see any harm in it at this point and since we have three bedrooms when they are ready for their own room all they have to do is ask.
I think putting the baby in their own room is a good ides, because just like you said, you don't want the baby to wake the other children, I might reuse some furniture, but not all of it.
First of all if you moved the master to the next floor up the kids would be more affected because they would be the ones to hear the baby crying and probably be the first ones to get to the baby. One idea would be to let the oldest (not a small child but a teenager) sleep upstairs in the master and make it so each child gets their turn before they go off to college. Not sure the ages of your kids but if they all got that privilege of sleeping in their own room away from their little siblings and got some privacy in their teen years they would surely love it. Young children either do well sharing a room or they fight all the time. If the kids get along and have a close bond (occasional spats are normal) then let them share. If they fight all the time you may have to rethink your sleeping arrangements. It is not ideal for children of opposite sexes to share rooms and I have even heard it is not allowed though never had the need to ask DSS about that:) You also wouldn't want to put the oldest child with a much younger sibling try to keep the sharing to children who are in the same age range so that bedtimes match, and toys match etc. If you put an 11 yr old with a 3 yr old, the 11 yr old is in a different stage in their life and would resent the constant babbling of a 3 yr old and possible feel like another mother to the child etc. Hope this helps. I grew up in a family of only 3 so I can't be much help we always had our own room. I have a child and 1 on the way and they will not be sharing a room mainly due to a large age difference. In regards to the baby furniture if they are keeping it until they go off to college well by all means by each child their own it will be a keepsake and something they can use for their own kids. But if it is not being kept and you have an available crib then reuse it, the children will not remember if they each got their own brand new crib. They will remember if they each got their own brand new car, college education, etc stuff to really spend your money on when they are older. Hope this helps:)
Well I live in a 3 bedroom house but it has really 3 floors, basement and attic fully renovated, but we sleep also in the second floor where the kids' rooms are, until they are older at least. Before my stepdaughter came to live with us, my son had his own room and my baby daughter had her own room, just like you we didnt want our baby to be in the same room with my son so she wouldnt keep him awake. Now my stepdaughter lives with us fulltime so she shares a room with my son, and my youngest daughter still sleeps in a crib in her own room. I dont see a reason why my children couldnt share a room-besides the issue of space... I see absolutely nothing wrong with it. And a baby always gets her/his own room due to obvious reason that a baby wakes up multiple times during the night for several months! And even after they sleep through, they still have wakes up in the middle of the night; and having a crying baby in the same room with an older child it'll disrupt their sleep way too much. And if it's a school age child who has to get up early in the morning after a sleepless night wont do well at school. And if it's a younger child you dont want him cranky during the day due to lack of sleep plus a new baby!! As far as crib... I know what you mean with buying them new furniture, but it's expensive and in this economy maybe you could save up and re-use cribs etc if it's in good condition. Maybe you can buy the new baby something special for him/her maybe something meaningful... that he/she can have as a keepsake. Or decorating the room specially for him/her.. Hope I helped!! Good Luck with the new baby!
We always shared rooms in my family. There is 10 years between my sister and me. Now, my kids will share a room. I think you are doing the right thing. The baby gets its own room so that it doesnt wake up everyone else who probably has school the next day. I think sharing rooms is good for kids. Especially when they can work it out that they both have their own space in the shared room. As for baby furniture, I personally always go used. Sometimes, this is not possible though. Re-use what you can, donate what you can't...
My mom has 6 kids. She reuses furniture. We all share rooms. Alexander (1) and Erin (8) share a room, Brandon (16) and Christian (12) share a room and Courtney (17) and Me (14) share a room. I think my parents are converting our basement office into a room for Courtney and then Erin will share a room with me like before Alexander was born and Alexander will have his own room. I don't care that I have to share a room. I think it's fine, they're little, what do they care?