Bedroom Talk

How do i control my raging anger when my kids do something REALLY stupid? Do i laugh it off or get mad?

My kids, 7 and 5 do really really stupid things.. such as pour salt all over the Living room.... pour soap all over the bathroom floor...throw everything break everything.. have no respect or anything for anything. Cut their clothes up because they think it looks funny.. pour bleach all over my wife and i's clothing..break their bedroom furniture..write all over the walls.just constant things that waste amounts of money...not ALL the time and no they are not adhd or autistic. I get sooooo angry i scream and yell and cuss and go crazy... ( no i dont beat them, but i sure i would like to some times ) What do i do?! how do i control my anger? am i supposed to laugh it off? what is best for them.. im not the "oh hunny why did you do that you silly goose" kind of guy... i get pissed... and dont want my kids to turn into sissys, but i want them to listen! what do i do?!

Public Comments

1. You have to stop being angry and start being in charge.
2. start pulling out the spankings and not be nice. if my kids did that theyd get their butts beat big time and have all their stuff taken away but the matress on the floor until they can start respecting things
3. Well, if your kids have done all of the things that you listed, even once, at their ages, I'd say you all could benefit from parenting classes. Outside of the anger, they should not be behaving that way...even once in awhile...pouring bleach on your clothes?!? You guys need to get some control over your children before they become out of control teenagers.
4. well you dont need to take the anger out on them!! calm down first step away for a minute and then go to them and talk to them if you can do time outs and tell them its not acceptable thats what i would do. hope this helps!
5. i know sometimes it seems like they are just little demons! but one thing you need to do is walk away until you are calm. while you are angry and upset, youll want to hurt them or yell at them and all the above. so first, walk away. once you are calm, you need to discipline them. like take away their toys or put them in a time out. even a little spank on the behind wouldnt hurt them, but you need to enforce some tough love. if not, they'll continue to act the way they are now. think of a way to teach them its not okay to do that. like if they watch tv all the time, take away their privileges: no tv. they are old enough to understand if they do something theyre not supposed to, there are consequences. good luck
6. lol sorry i know it sucks but its funny. my kids are still young but i have learned from them that i need to pay CONSTANT attention to them if i dont want them screwing with stuff. i guess that doesnt change. stay on their azz's and they cant get away with anything.
7. Their behavior is destructive and mean-spirited...there's nothing 'stupid' about it.. Judging by how aggressive your kids are...your raging anger has probably just become part of the game to them...rather than controlling the situation...you're playing right along with it by adding to the whole 'out of control' aspect of the current environment. Rather than adding to things by getting angry...start 'taking away' (toys, play time, TV, etc...) When stuff like this happens, get mad if you want to...but you'd also better come up with some consequences to go along with it. Spouting off and then being done with it isn't cutting it....they're obviously not frightened by your anger. It's up to you to decide what the consequences will be...but make them stick!
8. You need to keep a better eye on your kids or remove all of those things from their reach. If they get themselves into one of those scenarios send them to their rooms. Cool off. And then go in there and spank their little bottoms. If you can't control your 5 and 7 year old think about 10 years down the road when you have a 15 and 17 year old. YIKES!!!!! GET CONTROL NOW!!!!
9. Prevention is the key. Don't let it get to the point that you get angry. Don't make it a joke, and don't fly off the handle. Punish the bejeezus out of them for that kind of stuff, but don't fly into a cussing, screaming rage. Set in your mind beforehand a list of punishments, from light to extreme. Then, when something happens, take a moment, and simply say "OK, now you get (pick a punishment)." If they bitch & moan, tack on another. My personal technique is to drop my voice a decibel or two. I stop moving and speak quietly, doling out whatever punishment I've got in mind. Works pretty well, most of the time. The only time it doesn't is when I'm not consistent. Odds are that they enjoy getting the reaction. "Not being a sissy" is not the same thing as "screaming at the top of your lungs when you get mad." Self-control, even and reasoned. That way, when you do decide to show a little display, the flare up in your emotions takes them by storm. Yes, I know that's calculating.