Bedroom Talk

IS YOUR KID'S BEDROOM CLOSE TO YOURS?

I am Trying to conceive right now and i live in a 2 bedroom apartment but the rooms are a little apart from each other, I don't plan to let my child sleep in the other bedroom until at least 3 years old but is it okay that the rooms are not exactly next to each other? What are some pros & cons? Thanks!

Public Comments

1. Our daughter sleeps with us still, it was my fault I breastfed her in bed and still do. I suggest letting them sleep in their own room and crib, it is going to take a miracle to get my daughter out of our room.
2. Well apartments usually aren't that big anyways....
3. I keep my kid in its pen in the garden, otherwise it eats the carpet.
4. I don't have any kids but i have a little brother... pro:you ll have more space in your room con:if your a heavy sleeper then dont do it because if he cries you wont hear him
5. I don't have a kid so I guess the bedroom is really far from mine. :x help! Am I a bad mommy?
6. There is nothing wrong with the distance of your child's room to yours. That is why they invented baby monitors. Also, if you were a heavy sleeper before you have your first you never again will be able to sleep without waking to the slightest whimper or any other noise for that matter. Something happens in a woman;s brain when she has a child so that she can hear if her child needs her at anytime. You will be surprised at how easily you will hear your child when your husband or others don't hear a thing. I for one do not believe in co-sleeping arrangements with children. The first few months, yes, till you get used to everything if you want to. I believe a child needs to learn how to soothe themselves to sleep on their own at an early age, otherwise they are way to dependent on their parents to put them to bed and be in bed with them. You sleep better without your child in the bed and so does your child. Let alone the problems it causes in a marriage with a kid between you for umpteen years, plus it is a heartbreaking habit to break for your child since its all they have known. Your bedroom is your space not your child's. That why they have a room of their own and again the reason for a baby monitor. Good Luck!
7. You're better off using that extra room, because as your child gets older, the more they are in their own room, the less they will cling to you. My son and I sleep in the same room, and typically, because of that, he crawls into my bed early in the mornings. The earlier you get your child used to their own surroundings, the better it will be to let go and allow them their own freedoms.
8. There's nothing wrong with some space between the bedrooms. Buy a good baby monitor and you'll have no problems hearing the child.
9. My children were 12 months when they moved into their own bedroom (one across the hallway and the other next door to my bedroom). I was finished nursing by that time and they were both walking. I can't imagine having any intimate time with my husband and our 2-yr old son in the room at the same time - you may also view that as a con. I think a huge pro to having some distance is allowing your child to develop some independence and a sleep pattern that is not disrupted by anyone else in the home. My son makes noise during the night and of course when he wakes up each morning, however he is not so far away that we can not hear him if he needs help (at age 2 he typically calls out until someone pays attention to him anyway). At any rate, I think that it is fine to have distance between the rooms - at the age of three your child will likely be able to walk, open doors, speak coherently, etc so if he/she needs anything they will make sure you know about it - and if you still are uncomfortable you can utilize a baby monitor for peace of mind. I would also encourage you to read up on sleep habits and establishing healthy ones for your child...that may also provide you with some pros/cons (Dr Brazelton, Dr. Greene, etc).