Bedroom Talk

is it weird to not let your kids come into your room?

my friend has set a rule in her house that the kids are not aloud in the master bedroom.they can stand at the door and knock if they want to come in but she doesn't let kids sleep in the room or watch tv or cuddle when they are sick. what do you think about this?

Public Comments

1. doesn't sound so loving and nurturing to me. all people have different idea. You do what fits your life best. If you're a cuddler, then you cuddle your babes. You won't get to cuddle them for long anyway. They grow up so fast.
2. I think it's extremely weird, like she's trying to hide something... or maybe she doesn't want them messing the room up. Either way, weird.
3. I allow my children in the room... unless my husband and I are spending some time "doing the bills." However, when they have friends over I let them know that mommy and daddy's room if off limits and I close the door. I just don't want them messing with or taking and losing my jewelry or going through my drawers.
4. I've heard of a few parents having this rule, so I don't know if it'd be classed as weird. I guess they see it as their last piece of personal space that they want to keep separate from the kids. They pay for the house so it's their choice. Personally my home is my son's home, including my bedroom, and if he ever wants to get in bed with me and have a cuddle, or if he's sick and needs attention, or if he just wants to wander in, he is more than welcome. The only occasions he would ever not be allowed in there, the door would be locked.
5. Seems kinda weird to me. Whenever I am in my room, my 16 month old is more than welcome to join me. She loves looking at everything we have in our room while I put laundry away or tidy up.
6. No, its not weird. My kids aren't allowed in my room.Why? because that is the MASTER room.Our personal space.The kids have the rest of the house to chaos Mayhem and havoc.My room is my personal, mess free, germ free area and I wouldn't have it any other way.ESPECIALLY when the kid is sick.There is no reason for it when we can cuddle on the couch in the family room, front room, basement or their bedroom. A sick kid needs to be in his/her own bed instead of passing germs around to everyone else in the house.
7. It's not a rule that I would have in my house but I don't think it's weird. Perhaps the parents want to keep their room as a sanctuary for the two of them? That would be a good way to keep it that way. The parents can just as easily cuddle in the kids rooms and watch tv elsewhere with them.
8. i dont think its so bad ... i woudlnt do it but maybe thats her private space if the kids are sick she can cuddle with tehm on the couch or in their bed
9. I wonder if her rule has anything to do with her upbringing/childhood? If your friend considers her bedroom to be her place, for various reasons like expensive furniture, not wanting the kids to mess it up, or maybe she has a phobia, in the sense that her bedroom is contaminated by others going into it, even her kids? Does your friend cuddle her kids in other rooms? If yes, I would say there is an underlying reason for her not wanting them in her bedroom (master bedroom). It could be she is also teaching them boundries, respect at a young age like knocking before they enter the bedroom. Then again it could be related to her childhood... I would ask your friend. I have known people to keep kids out of rooms in their houses and it's because they didn't want their kids to mark anything or mess the room up. I don't think your friends weird, have you tired asking your friend why she keeps her kids out of the bedroom?
10. I don't like the idea. A house is a home and a home is shared by a family. Kids should be able to go freely in their own house. I think there can be limits to certain things, for example, only being able to lay in mom and dad's bed when given permission or when they're sick. Also, knocking at night or when the door is shut and closed. You know, common courtesies But, telling them they're not allowed in a room at all is strange. You want your kids to feel comfortable approaching you and talking to you. Having a "forbidden" space in their own home doesn't promote that. Parents should understand that when they young kids, they lose some of their privacy and their own space. If they have something in their room not suitable for children, then they should hide it or lock it up.
11. generally speaking the kids are allowed in the room, but i do try to keep them out when i am not in there as well. our computers are other breakable things are in our room and my two year old thinks they are tons of fun to play with, or just throw on the ground (my laptop) so if i am not in the room then i don't really want them in there. but they are allowed to come and snuggle and watch tv and they are always with me when they are sick. kids need their mom and/or dad near by where they can help them get through their sickness.
12. Depends how old they are. If they're older than 5, I wouldn't want them in my room without me there because I have stuff there that's not for kids. If they're toddlers like my two year old, they're welcome in any time. Also, keep in mind that kids like to snoop around their parents' stuff such as bedrooms and purses. I know I did when I was younger and I regret it because my parents were sex freaks and I'd find all kinds of really questionable stuff that I'm now getting to realize what it was.
13. I don't love having the kids roaming through my room. They don't sleep in there. The only people who sleep in my room are myself and my husband. They watch TV in there only when one of us in there, doing hair after a shower, for example, or in the mornings while we're getting ready for school or work. I really don't want sick kids in my bed. I'll go into their rooms or keep them in the living room when they get sick. When they have friends over, our room is locked to keep all kids out. The master bedroom is an adult space that the children should have limited access too. The rest of the house is child friendly (well, except for my husband's estrogen free den, but that's another subject entirely), this one small area does not have to be theirs as well.
14. Weird
15. It's just a retreat, to have a kid free zone in the house. The master bedroom is the best place. It would be weird if the kids were banned from the kitchen or the bathroom. I just wonder if there's anything wrong with her discipline of the kids, they might be out of control and extremely irritating to want to be able to escape from them at any time she likes. And also how many kids are we talking about? Has she got her own junior soccer team? Why did she have so many kids if she's not mentally prepared to deal with the noise and the constant need for attention.
16. If it works for them, fine. I do understand that sometimes adults want one room, just one room, for themselves. It's clean. It is private. It's a sanctuary. It's a place to be an adult. That's fair. It's not like she's telling the kids they're only allowed in one room of the house. They get free reign over the rest of the house.
17. my friends do this... I dont think it's weird. I would probably do it. Just because they dont cuddle in the master bedroom doesnt mean they dont cuddle elsewhere! My friends don't have a TV in their room- their kids do however. So i dont see why they would want to watch TV in the master bedroom. As another poster said- they should be in their own beds if they are sick. If my child is sick, i sit beside them in their bed and nurture them back to health